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Making assumptions

We all do it, even when we know it is wrong. We assume that we know why people are acting a certain way.

We spend time, energy, and effort on trying to know why people act the way they do.

And more often than not, our assumptions are negative.

It’s not worth it.

People act how they act. They have their own motivations.

What if we assumed they were doing the very best they could do each day?

What if we assumed that they had good intentions instead of seeing the worst in them?

What if we just didn’t assume anything?


I saw an act of kindness by a teacher the other day that was really great.

She saw a student do something that wasn't right.

She gave him the teacher look, and he stopped.

She said, "I know I don't have a relationship with him, and so if I said anything to him, it wouldn't matter. I got him to stop, but I know I can't change his behavior without a relationship. I need to talk to the teacher that does have a relationship with him."

Why is this kindness?

She honored that student by thinking of his needs before her need to be "right." She thought of him and his growth, and rather than lecture him yet again, she cared enough about his growth to say, "I'm going to get the right person to talk with him when he is calm."

It's inspiring.